KAMASUTRA : An Ancient Guide To Pleasure And Fulfillment

What Is Kama Sutra?

The Kama Sutra (also written as Kamasutra) is ancient Hindu text on sexual and emotional fulfillment in life. The phrase is made up of two Sanskrit words, each with its unique meaning.

Here’s a closer look at them individually:

Kama is made up of both sensual and aesthetic desires. However, in the Kama Sutra book, an emphasis is placed on sensual desire.The word can mean “love,” “desire,” or “pleasure.” This pleasure is not limited to sexual desire but rather a broad term encompassing all the pleasures of life.

Sutra means “line” or “thread.” It is the same root as the English word suture, the strands of a line that are used in medicine to seal wounds. However, sutra, here, refers to a thread of verses that form a manual. The kama sutra's origins are unknown. The books on this religious practise, however, are thought to have been penned between 400 and 200 AD by the Indian philosopher Vatsyayana Mallanaga.He claimed to be a celibate monk and did not record these teachings based on firsthand experience with a flourishing sex life. He instead gathered and distilled sexual lessons and wisdom from the Kamashastra (the Rules of Love), which was written hundreds of years before.

What Are the Fundamental Teachings of the Kama Sutra?

The book may feature images of very graphic sex positions, however, that is not the book's main aim. In fact, the Kama Sutra addresses a wide range of subjects of living a happy life:

• love's Philosophy and nature
• Marriage and family life in many forms
• What causes desire (and what keeps it going)
• Etiquette is important.
• Surviving alone and getting married
• Grooming and self-care
• The practise of different skills such as scent blending, poetry, and cuisine
• Balancing feminine and masculine energy (both within oneself and in a relationship)
• Many other (non-sexual) pleasure-oriented aspects of life

Exploring the Kama Sutra Book

1. Dattaka: General remarks

The Dattaka prefaces the entire book with snippets of wisdom and philosophy on topics such as how to acquire knowledge and how to live honorably.

It provides the background of the four goals of Hindu life, also known as “rules of existence”:

• Kama: Desire and love
• Dharma: Fulfilling one’s duty here on Earth; virtue and truth
• Artha: Abundance, success, and material wealth
• Moksha: Release from the cycle of rebirth

Although every life goal was highly valued, the first section of this ancient Hindu text emphasizes the importance of both men and women fulfilling kama.

2.  Suvarnanabha: Amorous advances or sexual union

This part is perhaps what the Kama Sutra book is most known for — the sexy stuff. It explores the physical stimulation of desire. It details 64 different types of sexual acts.

These topics include (but are not limited to):

• Types of embraces
• Kissing and caressing
• Biting
• Slapping
• Moaning
• Sex positions
• Oral sex

Additionally, it discusses partner compatibility and potential intellectual pastimes, aphrodisiacs, magic, and sorcery.

3. Ghotakamukha: Acquiring a wife

Ghotakamukha focuses on living life as a bachelor and how to go about courting a woman for marriage. These methods may be outdated for modern times as they are mostly based on astrological compatibility and the benefits of marriage for the families involved (caste systems). 

Furthermore, it discusses how to make a virgin wife feel comfortable, relaxed, and confident in sexual intercourse and connection to awaken her inner sex goddess.

4. Gonardiya: Duties and privileges of the wife

This section discusses the duties of the wife: cooking, cleaning, and catering to the husband. 

While these one-sided gender roles may have made sense 3,000 years ago, they aren’t (for most parts) practiced in present-day relationships.

5. Gonikaputra: Other men’s wives

The fifth section examines the behavior of both women and men and discusses the evaluation of sentiments in a relationship. For instance, how to get to know one another on a deeper and more intimate level, which, perhaps, can help overcome sexual anxiety.

The more outdated information in this section refers to the king’s pleasure and his numerous wives, as well as his behavior in the women’s quarters.

6. Charayana: About courtesans

The focus of this section is the necessity for a man to have experiences with courtesans, or prostitutes, to build confidence before pursuing a wife. It also gives advice on mending past relationships with friends and lovers, attaining wealth, and finding a committed partner.

This section gives advice on relations with these amorous assistants, how to attain wealth (Artha), mending relationships with past lovers and friends, and ultimately, how to find a steady, committed lover.

7. Kuchumara: Occult practices

This final part of the Kama Sutra is essentially the “sex talk” in written form. It’s an exploration of sexual lore — how to keep things steamy in a partnership and how to arouse any weakened sexual power.

To improve physical attraction, Kuchumara offers advice on proper grooming and self-care, perfumes and oils for the body, and recipes for home remedies to cure a variety of sexual deficiencies.

Its conclusion states that a virtuous and prudent person, attending to the Hindu goals of life without becoming too damaged by and sucked into the pursuit of pleasure, may obtain success in all areas of life.

 Kama Sutra Positions to Try

Talking about this sacred practice without the kama sutra poses is like talking about the ocean without mentioning the water. And like the ocean and its water, kama sutra positions can help you with energy healing to deepen your connection and intimacy with your partner.

Here are six positions, suggested by Psalm, for you to try with the kama sutra how-tos:

1. Cowgirl 

This position puts the woman in charge. It allows her to control the pace and penetration depth, allowing her to orgasm more easily. 

And for those looking for ways to enjoy sex after menopause, this is definitely one to try.

How to do it: The penetrating partner lies on their back while the woman is straddling them on top. As its name indicates, it looks a bit like riding a horse. 

2. Spooning

There’s a feeling of security and intimacy with this position. Given that the entry is from behind, it can also add a dash of eroticism.

How to do it: There are several ways to spoon. However, the traditional way is when both lie on their sides, facing the same direction. The woman can lift her knees slightly while the penetrating partner slides up behind her pelvis and enters her from behind. 

3. Doggy Style

This isn’t the most intimate of positions, but doggy style ranks number two in the most searched sex position in America based on 2021 Google Trends.

It’s deep and intense and definitely gets the heart pumping! 

How to do it: Like Sexy Spoons, there are several variations of Doggy Style. The belly version involves the woman lying flat on her stomach, with or without a pillow under her pelvis. The penetrating partner is on their knees, entering from behind her. Additionally, more friction and skin-to-skin contact can be added to the equation if the woman lies on her belly.

4. Happy Boyfriend

This one gives a little twist to the traditional missionary. But be aware that it calls for some flexibility. 

How to do it: The woman is lying on her back, knees bent to her chest. Her legs are spread over the penetrating partner’s shoulders. Alternatively, she can put her feet on her partner’s chest for more control over the depth of the penetration.

5. Sixty-Nine (69)

Sixty-nine is rather a love-it-or-hate-it position. It takes some coordination, given that it requires both parties to give oral sex while enjoying each other’s performance simultaneously.

Regardless, it is undoubtedly one of the most famous. It not only provides mutual satisfaction but also fun. As Kama says, “This is great for foreplay or when you’re both turned on for that climax to come quickly from the lightest touch.”

How to do it: Both are facing each other, face to the groin, and simultaneously going down on each other. It’s in the name — the position of both bodies makes it look like the numbers 6 and 9.

6. Yab-Yum

Turn a regular position into tantric sex and energy orgasms with Yab-Yum. It combines meditation, yoga, and sex so it isn’t an experience to rush.

The position requires both partners to be extremely close with lots of skin-to-skin contact, which builds immense sexual tension. And when they can sync their breathing, it opens the gates to great pleasure.

How to do it: The woman sits on the man’s lap, wrapping her legs around his waist and arms around his shoulders. He wraps his arms around her waist, and both rock back and forth slowly to let the sexual energy flow until they both reach orgasm.

5 Kama Sutra Secrets to Make Your Experience More Mind-Blowing

Learning kama sutra positions is a great way to level up your sex life. But Psalm has some great secrets that can help transform your experience into something beautiful and unique.

Here are five of them that can help deepen your connection and more intimate. 

1. No judgment. Don’t judge yourself or your partner. Instead, come together in intimacy.

1. Synchronize your breathing. Breath transforms everything, so make sure you and your partner practice a technique called bliss breath — long, slow, deep inhale and then, exhale where you can hear that little whispering sound at the back of your throat.

1. Secret squeeze. During penetration, add that secret squeeze — “squeezing the vagina around the penis” — to intensify the sexual energy to lift the connection from local orgasm to heart to soul.

1. Use feather-light touch. This technique soft strokes as part of foreplay. However, you can still use it during sex to titillate and tease your way to exquisite pleasure.

1. Eye contact. The eyes are the windows to the soul, so imagine how intensely powerful it can be when you do it together during intercourse and climax.

While you can do these separately, Psalm suggests trying them all out together in the different sex positions. When you’re able to master it, you can control your own pleasure and what makes you feel good.