Guide: How to Use a Strap-On Safely

Strap-ons are such a public symbol of gay sexuality—you've probably seen them on TV or joked about them with friends—but learning how to use one is a different story and might be intimidating if you've never done it before. With apparently unlimited varieties and variants available at most sex stores, it might be difficult to choose the appropriate one, let alone figure out how to use this traditional sex toy with a partner without getting stuck in a tangle of straps and buckles.

The beautiful thing about strap-ons is that they are really adaptable sex toys. Strap-ons can be used for penetrative sex with a partner, solitary masturbation, or to make you feel seductive even when you aren't having sex. Anyone, regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, or physical type, can use a strap on; however, what fits or feels good for one person may not work for another. Maybe you've been wanting to try a strap-on but don't know where to begin, or you're wondering if you and your partner would enjoy using one. With a little experience, the correct equipment, and open discussion with your partner, you may discover a strap-on that suits you. Whether you're a top, bottom, or vers, LGBT sex toy specialists will teach you all you need to know about buying, using, and cleaning your strap-on.

What is a strap-on?

Most strap-ons consist of two parts: a harness and a dildo. The dildo is attached to a harness that may be worn around the pelvis for hands-free penetrative partnered intercourse, masturbation, or even to aid with gender confusion. Some harnesses are built for persons with penises and may suit both the individual's anatomy and a hollow strap-on if desired. If dealing with a harness isn't your thing, "strapless" strap-ons can be worn internally, allowing the wearer to penetrate a partner with the longer end of a double-sided dildo. When it comes to strap-ons, there are countless possibilities for harness size, design, fabric, or unique features, such compartments for a bullet vibe or condoms, and dildo size, shape, and texture.

There are additional harnesses that may be tied to the wearer's thighs or face, allowing a partner to ride or grind on them. "These designs are very beneficial and significant in making strap-on sex more accessible to people with various body shapes and abilities.

How do I choose and buy a strap-on?

There are additional harnesses that may be tied to the wearer's thighs or face, allowing a partner to ride or grind on them. "These designs are very beneficial and significant in making strap-on sex more accessible to people with various body shapes and abilities. What style will make you feel both hot and in your body? What connects with your gender?

Maybe a full coverage boxer style may help you feel embodied and present during sex. Perhaps something a bit more cheeky would do the trick.

To get the appropriate fit, measure the circumference of your hips, waist, and thighs. If you can go to a sex store in person, this is a good opportunity to look at the styles and options available in your size. If you intend to use the dildo for penetrative sex with a partner, we generally advocate selecting body-safe materials such as 100% silicone, stainless steel, or glass. You should also explain any size, shape, and texture preferences to each other so that you can locate something you'll both be satisfied with and comfortable with.

For example, some people who suffer from vaginismus or are new to anal play may prefer something smaller, smoother, and with less texture, whilst others may need something larger that also vibrates.

Whether you select a tiny strap-on, silicone strap-on, vibrating strap-on, or any of the various strap designs available, you should always go with what is most comfortable for you and your partner(s).

How to put a strap-on?

Adding any new sex toys or gear, including strap-on sex, requires some previous thought. Communication is essential, so make sure you and your spouse are both interested in and thrilled about including something like a strap-on into your sex life before you begin. Discuss with your partner(s) your desires and expectations regarding penetration, what feels good, and any gender affirming words you both may want to say or hear.

While there is no right or wrong way to learn how to use a strap-on—what feels good to one person may not feel good to another—here are a few pointers to help you get started and discover what works best for you and your partner.

Get comfy.

Once you've decided that you and your lover want to attempt strap-on play, you'll want to familiarise yourself with how your new equipment fits and feels, especially before you get started. Consider strap-ons as a form of equipment that you would wear for an activity like rock climbing. You may need to adjust the straps or become acquainted with the actual feeling or sensation of wearing a strap-on before attempting to utilise it. Practice putting it on and taking it off, and make sure the straps are adjusted so you feel comfortable.

Start slow

Once you're up and running, take it slowly—it might take some time to adjust to moving your body in a new way. Remember to keep speaking and checking in with your spouse once you've started. "Introducing a strap-on can be incredibly fun and affirming,"

It may also bring fresh dynamics into established connections, which can be quite exciting. Discuss how it feels for you and your partner, physically and emotionally.

Get inventive.

Once you're acquainted with the fundamentals of strap-on sex, think about adding some other toys or strap-on accessories. Consider using a bullet vibe in the harness or a vibrating c-ring around the base of the dildo. 

How do I clean my strap-on?

Cleanliness is essential for preserving the quality, function, and durability of any sex toy, but the best way to clean a strap-on harness and dildo varies depending on the materials used. For harness materials like as nylon, vinyl, and other textiles, a mild hand-washing with warm soapy water followed by air-drying is typically sufficient. Other harness materials, like as leather, may need more extensive maintenance, so make sure to follow any particular care instructions that may be included, or contact the manufacturer directly for additional information on how to keep your new purchase. Splash-proof motorised dildos and other non-vibrating harness attachments made of silicone, glass, or stainless steel may be hand-washed with warm soapy water and cleansed after each use to prevent bacterial or yeast infections.

When exchanging toys with lovers or using a dildo both anally and vaginally, always sanitise by boiling or using an antibacterial toy cleaning.

After cleaning the harness and accessories, we recommend storing them in their original packing or a cloth pouch to prevent dust accumulation.