Exploring the Different Types of Strap Ons: Find Your Perfect Fit

Perhaps you've heard of strap-ons before but aren't sure what they are. Or maybe you want to add a strap-on to your sex life but aren't sure which one to acquire. Although there is a wide range of strap-ons available, the effort of selecting the best one for you and your partner should not be overwhelming – in fact, the entire experience, from beginning to end, should be enjoyable. We're here to teach you the fundamentals of strap-ons, get you off to a solid start, and get you excited to play with your new toy.

What is a strap-on?

 A strap-on sex toy consists of a dildo (often a non-vibrating, penis-shaped silicone toy) and a waist/hip harness to which the dildo can be attached.

Why do people use strap-ons? Strap-ons allow for hands-free penetrative intercourse. These devices can be used for vaginal or anal sex, which is sometimes referred to as "pegging." There are several ways in which people might enjoy utilising a strap-on. Strap-ons may be gender-confirming for some and gender-fucky for others.

A strap-on could be useful to use with persons of any gender, as long as they desire to feel vaginal or anal penetration (or whatever they term their pleasure areas), noting that male-female pegging especially might be "extremely educational" and "not to mention erotic.”

There is no incorrect way to use a strap-on as long as everyone agrees and enjoys themselves.

How to use a strap-on

Get comfortable

First-time strap-on users should spend some time getting acclimated to wearing the strap-on before plunging in. Try wearing your dildo and harness around the home to see how it feels on you.

Obtain their explicit permission.

As with any sexual interaction, obtain unambiguous consent first. Before proceeding, ask your partner whether they are interested in introducing a strap-on and discuss the benefits and drawbacks. If you're uncomfortable with the concept, don't push it; you can always take your time warming up to it or not.

Strap on and grab the necessary accessories.

Most strap-ons consist of two parts: the dildo and the harness/brief. This means you may create a bespoke strap-on for both you and your partner (more on the many sorts of strap-ons later). You'll also want to have some lubrication and any other toys you want to bring.

Look for positions that suit your needs.

You may try a variety of positions, but one that's very pleasant is to lie on your back and let your partner slowly settle onto the dildo. In addition to being seductive and allowing them to control the timing and depth, this position is also ideal for clitoral and breast stimulation. (If your significant other has clitoris!)But if your harness buckles in the rear, this might not be the greatest posture for you. Thus, it's essential to try new things.

To ensure that everyone is having fun, everyone should start off slowly as you learn out exactly how to operate the strap-on. When doing something new, it's normal to feel a bit uneasy and worried. Take a few deep breaths and remember that it's acceptable to give up if something doesn't seem right.

Keep it clean.

Make care to clean your strap-on as soon as you're done using it to prevent the formation of bacteria. Most sex toy stores sell specialised anti-bacterial toy cleaners.

Types of strap-ons

1. The strap-on with a harness. The tethered strap-ons, which are perhaps the most well-known versions, are available in numerous designs, including jockstrap, G-string, and corset.‍
2. The jockstrap: This three-strap harness design leaves the crotch mostly uncovered with one strap around the waist and two straps around each leg. Since all of the connecting straps on the jockstrap are adjustable, it can be the perfect option for people who like to personalise their fit.
3. The G-string: As the name would suggest, the G-string harness fits like a conventional G-string. There are two straps: one at the waist and the other between the legs. Though some may find thrusting painful, others may enjoy the exhilaration it brings.
4. The corset: Lastly, the harness with the corset design laces up in the back to offer extra support and control as well as a tighter, more customised fit.
5. The strap-on boxer brief/lingerie set: Try a boxer-brief or lingerie-style strap-on foundation first if you're unsure if any of the aforementioned harnesses will be comfortable for you. You could also feel as though the dildo is an organic extension of your body with this type of strap-on base. However, be advised that these bases do not fit as snugly against the body as the aforementioned harnesses and cannot hold bigger dildos.

The aforementioned items are available in an assortment of materials. The most popular materials for harnesses are rubber, leather, and imitation leather. Some models also include metal accents or ornamental fabric, such as the rubber or metal ring that the dildo is fitted into. Certain companies, such as Good Vibrations, offer harnesses with integrated vibrator pockets so the strap-on wearer can also receive some G-spot and/or clitoral stimulation, or strap-on accessories like these stackable rubber rings that can minimise any discomfort that might be caused by the metal ring hitting the pubic bone during thrusting.

• The strap-on without a strap. Strapless strap-ons are double-headed dildos with a single bulb that is intended to be internally held by the thruster. For people who find the harness feature of the conventional strap-on uncomfortable, they are the ideal solution. Be advised that most strapless strap-ons demand a significant level of kegal talent, but the reward of simultaneously satisfying both participants' desires could make the effort worthwhile.

How to pick a dildo that matches your strap-on?

Actually, you're getting the harness and the dildo as two different goods. To ensure that it fits in the harness, you should select a dildo that has both a base and a harness. The fit and style of the strap-on must be chosen by the individual wearing it. Shop together and haggle if you want to use it jointly! You may need one for each of you if your sizes are somewhat varied. If you are going to utilise the [dildo] with a certain person, choose it together or obtain their opinion on the form and size.

Although everyone has different tastes, you could also choose to start with something shorter and smaller. Naturally, the person being penetrated should have a voice in the first size. Make sure the harness's hole can accommodate a greater size if you decide you want something larger in the end.

You may select a slimmer dildo, but make sure it's not too soft because a wiggly toy makes it more difficult to enter inside your partner, especially when conducting anal intercourse. Even if you're performing anal strap-on sex, avoid choosing a butt plug to pair with your harness because they're not designed for in-and-out play and are typically too short. Also don't use a dildo made of a hard material (like metal, glass, Lucite); these can hurt or even cause injury if a thrust happens at an unexpected angle.

The bottom line‍

If you’re feeling more confident about starting your strap-on journey, then the fun part starts now. Browse your favorite sex toy shop to see if any of their offerings in the strap-on category suits your fancy, and then put your new knowledge to good use. As long as you and your sexual partner are both feeling good and keeping things consensual, then you’re doing this strap-on thing right.