Anal Hygiene: Prepare For Anal Sex

Anal sex is genuinely having a moment. Never in recent history has butt play been talked about so openly or actively. Yet, there remains a ton of misinformation, negative stigma, and unfortunate first-time experiences that continue to deter many folks from adding anal onto their pleasure menu.

The fact is that anal is a completely other type of pleasure that can result in some mind-blowing orgasmic experiences. The key to making anal play enjoyable is education. It's not difficult, but it does involve planning and expertise. Read on to learn all of our anal hygiene tips and tricks, as well as how to prepare for anal sex.

 We have your behind covered.

Try it on your own first!

For first-time anal users, experiencing a finger, toy, or penis might be a new experience. Practicing solitary anal play allows you to be both the provider and the receiver, which is quite useful when adding another person to the mix.

Knowing how anal masturbation feels from both sides might help things go more smoothly when you're with someone. Many individuals learn that knowing what it's like to receive helps them give better, and vice versa.

5 Anal Hygiene Tips

Anal cleanliness is one of the most prominent concerns regarding anal play. Type "Anal Hygiene" or "How do porn stars prepare for anal?" into Google, Quora, or Reddit, and you'll see the same advice repeated over and again.

Preparing for anal is straightforward and requires common sense. Here's our approved five-step strategy to preparing for anal

1. Keep it clean before anal play!

EASY CLEAN: Use the loo 30-60 minutes before anal play. Empty your bowels and clean the anal region with ordinary soap and warm water. Unscented, hypoallergenic baby wipes are an excellent choice. Most individuals find that this way of cleaning is sufficient. You should use warm water, so check it against your wrist. If you become too chilly, you will cramp. Too hot will irritate the tissues. Make sure to use water that you would drink. If you filter your tap water, utilise it for an enema.

DEEP CLEAN: For the greatest results, use an enema 1-2 hours before anal play. You simply need a few glasses of water to rinse out the final 6-8 inches (15-20 cm) of the rectum. Using too much water might excite your digestive system and make things messier.

You should use warm water, so check it against your wrist. If you become too chilly, you will cramp. Too hot will irritate the tissues. Make sure to use water that you would drink. If you filter your tap water, utilise it for an enema.

2. Use a towel during anal

To help keep things clean, place a towel on the bed before you begin. It prevents stains on your bedsheets and aids in the collection of lubricant, bodily fluids, and faeces.

If anal activity becomes messy, the towel is there to help. After you're finished, fold your towel and place it in the wash.

3. Try gloves for foreplay

Although some individuals believe they disrupt the flow of a date night, using gloves or finger condoms is an effective technique to keep anal play sanitary. They're also ideal for doing an anal massage, which stimulates the sexual nerve endings at the anal orifice and prepares the body for penetration.

You may buy a package of gloves at the drugstore, but they don't necessarily seem very beautiful. Tattoo artists wear thinner gloves than medical gloves, and they come in black, which is more hotter. Latex gloves fit best and are frequently less expensive, however some people are allergic to latex, particularly during anal play. Plus, latex is incompatible with oils. Nitrile gloves are ideal, and you may use oil-based lubricants with them. Glove sizes might vary, even within the same package. If you put on a glove that is loose enough to wrinkle, remove it and try a different one. Folds in the glove might irritate the anus. Finally, many individuals find that after a few great anal play sessions, seeing a partner put on a glove becomes foreplay. Make it seductive by informing your lover how much fun you're going to have together. Tell them you're excited to get your hands on them. It will make a significant impact.

4. Finger cots

Also known as "finger condoms," these little fellows fit over your fingers for quick and clean lubing and fingering. Finger cots are less burdensome than gloves and may be removed simply and quickly during play, without disturbing the atmosphere. They also serve as an excellent barrier against nail scrapes and help protect the wearer's epidermis and the receiver's anus from germs.

5. Don't go from vags to butt without cleaning up

Never go from anal to vaginal activity without cleaning up beforehand. It's perhaps one of the most crucial suggestions for anal hygiene.

"Double-dipping" from the anus to the vagina is a surefire method to cause yourself or your partner a nasty infection. If you want to have vaginal intercourse following anal play, be sure that no lubrication, oil, or bodily fluid is transported from the anus to the vagina or the penis.

While the anal hygiene guidelines above will lessen the likelihood of accidents, they can still occur, thus it is important to be realistic about this.

For some people, this marks the end of their sexual encounter. Others will clean up, take a brief shower, and then do something new when they return to bed. You and your partner may pick what feels best for you.

The most essential thing is not to panic out over it. Yes, it may be a pain. However, it does not have to become a disaster. Keep your cool, tidy up, and go on. If you make a huge deal out of anything, it will become large. If you remain calm, the situation will not escalate into a disaster.

How Do I Use a Douche or Enema?

Rinsing out can take some practice, so set aside plenty of time the first few times.

If possible, try to prepare a couple of hours ahead of time. Why? Because water can become caught in the folds of the rectum and take some time to exit. So be sure to stay near a loo till it happens. 

STEP 1: Rinse the douche or enema, clean the nozzle, and fill the bulb with warm water.

STEP 2: Attach the nozzle to the bulb and grease it.

STEP 3: Rest on elbows and knees or rest on your side. Insert the nozzle, then squeeze the bulb.

STEP 4: Hold the water for 10-15 seconds before releasing it into the toilet. You can do this step several times if you like. You might try retaining the water while refilling the bulb. Repeat, then release all of the water at once.

STEP 5: Immediately clean the nozzle and bulb with mild soap. Allow it to dry completely before storing. You're now ready to play!

As we covered in our post on Enema Play, enemas and douching are not synonymous. Douches do not force the water as deeply as enemas and are usually used for basic cleansing or preparing for anal play. They clean largely with water and pressure rather than chemicals. Enemas are intended to go farther and deeper into the intestines in order to completely empty your bowels. They are often significantly more severe and used to treat medical conditions including constipation. Some enemas contain chemicals that cause contractions or break down faeces in your intestines, making it much simpler to push out. However, numerous enemas might deplete your stomach of vital and good bacteria, causing damage to your overall digestion.

Shower Shots

A shower shot is another quick and easy technique to get people out of your doors. While shower shots are extremely handy and effective, they can cause irritation to your insides if you do not know how to adjust the pressure and temperature of your shower, resulting in pain or, in severe circumstances, prolapse.

Before utilising a shower shot, ensure that you have complete control over the pressure in your shower and that you listen to your body.

Body hair: Should I shave my butt or go au naturel? 

As we stated in our comprehensive guide on analingus, there is no correct answer. It all depends on what you're most comfortable doing.

PROS: Some people enjoy the appearance, fragrance, and texture of body hair. Ask your partner what they're into, and think about what you like. If you don't want to shave or wax your b-hole, that's okay.

CONS: Faecal matter. Yes, it can become trapped in your buttocks' hair, but you can avoid this by cleansing your crack before anal activity. This is the first golden rule of anal hygiene.

Laser Hair Removal

Laser hair removal uses laser light to damage your hair follicles, halting hair creation and significantly reducing future hair growth. While successful, the treatment is not permanent and may need numerous sessions before yielding desired effects.

Electrolysis

Another option is electrolysis, which involves a professional electrologist inserting a small wire beneath the skin's surface to zap and completely remove hair roots. While the procedure is more painful than lasers and takes longer to produce results, it is the most permanent technique of safe hair removal. A good diet leads to better anal sex. While there have been no particular research on diet and anal play, it all boils down to consuming enough protein and fibre. Protein hardens the stool, whereas fibre makes it easier to push out. Fiber-rich foods include fruits and vegetables, whole grains, and nuts.

Avoid coffee, caffeinated beverages, and drinking too much alcohol. Water is your best buddy and will help you have regular bowel movements.

Is it safe to have an anal without a condom?

Yes, but only if you are in a monogamous relationship and both you and your partner have tested negative for STIs. However, even if you're both "clean," having anal intercourse without a condom is not completely safe. This is why our team of sex educators recommends safe sex. Many people believe that safe sex just includes wearing condoms and other barrier measures like dental dams and gloves during sex and sexual activity, but it is much more than that. Practicing safe sex entails becoming knowledgeable about STIs and how to prevent them. Knowing your status and how to have that crucial talk with new and existing partners about your STI status, desired barriers, and limits. Provides a solid basis for a fantastic anal play experience while allowing everyone involved to make better decisions for their health and safety.

Is it safe to have an anal with an anal fissure?

NO! When you have anal fissures, you should quit placing items up your buttocks, as we discussed in our Anal Fissures article. Allowing a fissure to fully heal is essential so that you may return to not just a pleasant day-to-day living, but also bottoming! Depending on the degree of your anal fissure, you may need to see a doctor about prescription suppositories or perhaps anal botox to completely shrink it. 

The greatest advice for anal fissures is to avoid getting them in the first place! You may do this by correctly dilating, not over-douching, and avoiding poppers.

How To Talk About Anal

Once you've mastered anal cleanliness and chosen to explore anal play, the following step is to tell your partner. We've compiled a list of suggestions to help you have a successful conversation.

Don't take Anal by surprise!

While many individuals like anal intercourse and would like to expand their sexual experiences, not everyone does. Some folks have never attempted it. Some people tried it and found it uncomfortable or painful. Others have been pressured by their spouses into it. Unfortunately, anal play has caused sexual trauma for certain people.

Talk with your partner before anal play

The greatest moment to bring up the subject is when you are not having sex. If your spouse isn't into anal play for any reason, discussing it will be much simpler when there isn't a lot of erotic energy involved. One effective technique to initiate the conversation is to say something like this:

"I'm fascinated about anal sex and have been reading about it online. Is it something you'd be interested in learning about?

Allow your partner time to ponder about anal play.

Some people will enthusiastically agree. Others, however, may require some time to reflect, particularly if they have previously had unpleasant experiences. If their answer isn't an immediate yes, inform your partner you don't want to put them under any pressure. Ask them if they want to take some time to make a decision. Make sure to provide your partner that time. Don't hurry them, and don't try to "accidentally" add anal play while having sex with them. You might find it simpler to schedule a follow-up to see how they feel. Give them a few days or even a week before bringing it up again.

Offer them information on anal play.

One of the most prevalent causes of uncomfortable or painful anal play is a lack of knowledge on how to properly do it. You might reassure your spouse during your anal discussion by mentioning that you have done your study. Our anal play guidance area contains over 25 articles that answer topics such as "Does anal hurt?" and "What is a butt plug?" as well as more specialised queries such as "I'm a heterosexual man, and I enjoy it when people play with my buttocks; does this make me gay?" in "As a woman, does liking anal sex make me a slut?"

If your spouse refuses anal play

It might be disheartening when your spouse decides not to try anal play. That feeling is reasonable, and it is critical not to allow it harm your relationship.

If your spouse isn't interested in anal sex, don't put too much pressure on them or attempt to persuade them otherwise. That is far more likely to create issues than to improve them. The kindest thing you can do is compliment your spouse for being open with you about their desires.

The kindest thing you can do is compliment your spouse for being open with you about their desires. You may also ask them why they do not want to try it. There could be some middle ground where you can compromise. For example, if your partner mentions that they have tried anal sex and it hurts, you might tell them that you are also interested in experiencing exterior contact without penetration. You can do anal training (hint: see below) or direct them to our anal play tips section. If your spouse has a strict limit on anal play, the best thing you can do is accept it and find other methods to have sex together. Remember that there are many different ways to have sex, and anal play is just one.

If your lover agrees to anal!

Congrats! You and your lover are one step closer to enjoying the benefits of anal play. However, there are still a few things to discuss first. Here are some questions you may ask them:

• "Have you done anal before?"
• "Have you ever used anal toys?"
• "What is it about anal play that you enjoy (or are curious about)?"

These easy questions will provide some helpful information about your partner's preferences. For example, if anal play appeals to someone because it feels forbidden to them, it is not the same as loving it for the physical feelings. The more you understand why your spouse desires anal sex, the more you can design an encounter that will make both of you happy.

Anal Aftercare

Aftercare is the act of caring for your spouse after sex. It rewards our partners for sharing themselves with us and reminds them that our concern for their enjoyment and well-being extends beyond the orgasms.

Anal sex aftercare does not have to be too romantic or grandiose; it simply has to be a deliberate expression of gratitude and responsibility. Whatever you do, remember our general aftercare rule: the higher you soar, the softer the landing. While softly fingering someone's ass may only need a simple "How's your tush feeling?" question, a lengthy session of anal penetration will almost certainly necessitate much more.