Guide to Bondage: 10 Bondage Positions for Beginners

Guide to Bondage: 10 Bondage Positions for Beginners

If you and your lover want to try something new in your sex life, consider kinky type of sex such as BDSM. Bondage play is one of the most popular types of BDSM.

What is BDSM?

The word BDSM refers to a broad range of erotic practices and kinks centred on power dynamics between consenting sexual partners.

The word BDSM is an abbreviation for three related but distinct cultures that employ power imbalance for sexual pleasure: bondage and discipline (B/D), dominance and submission (D/s), and sadism and masochism (S/M). In general, BDSM involves one partner acting as the dominant (or "dom") and the other as the submissive (or "sub") as they both act out consensual fantasies. Both partners derive sexual pleasure and satisfaction from playing their roles (dominant or submissive) during the sexual session.

4 Tips for Bondage Play

If you are new to bondage play, consider these tips before you get started:

  1. Create ground rules with your companion. Before you begin engaging in healthy bondage play, you and your partner should both agree on your level of comfort. Have an open and honest conversation with your partner about the roles you're drawn to, so you may both feel comfortable and confident experimenting.

  2. Choose a safe term. Bondage play is based on trust and mutual consent between one or more people. However, it might be difficult to distinguish between playful banter and a genuine request to slow down or halt the encounter in the middle of the session. Every bondage practitioner should have at least one safe word with their partner—something that either party may use to indicate that a boundary has been broken and a break is required. Furthermore, you and your partner can select two alternative safe words—one that signifies a halt in action and another that indicates you're approaching a boundary and should ease off or shift the session's direction.

  3. Begin small. If you're new to bondage, start with simple BDSM activities before purchasing a more complex rope system. If you want to purchase equipment, a blindfold and some wrist restraints are useful, inexpensive items that you can utilise as you progress to more complex bondage play.

  4. Understand the hazards. There are two major schools of thought on risk during BDSM sessions: the "safe, sane, and consensual" model (SSC) and the "risk-aware consensual kink" model (RACK). Those who follow the SSC approach prioritise safety, adhering to activities that you and your spouse have previously identified as "safe." Those who follow the RACK model believe that the term "safe" is problematic because many BDSM practices are inherently risky; they say that it is each individual's responsibility to choose risk tolerance, making explicit consent even more important. Before you begin bondage play, learn how to take the necessary precautions to avoid cutting off circulation or inflicting nerve damage.

10 Bondage Positions For Beginners

When it comes to bondage, couples have many options for sex positions.

  1. Spooning bondage: In the spooning bondage position, also known as the rag doll position, the small spoon partner's arms are tied in front of them. The spooned partner can be blinded for extra kink.

  2. Handcuffed to the bed: In this type of bondage, someone is shackled to a bed—usually a headboard—with rope or handcuffs. Bed bondage allows for a variety of positions, the most of which are suitable for foreplay or vibrator stimulation.

  3. Hogtie: In the hogtie, both wrists and ankles are tied together at a single location.

  4. A conventional ball tie involves the submissive partner being bound in the foetal position, with their arms and knees tucked against their chest. A ball gag can be inserted in their mouth.

  5. Frogtie: In this rope bondage position, the submissive partner's ankles are linked to the thighs. Their arms are usually bound behind their back, in a reverse prayer position. When vulva owners are frogtied, the position allows for easy access to their clitoris during oral sex.

  6. Cowgirl: In this bondage position, the submissive partner is bound in a spread-eagle stance with the dominant partner performing the cowgirl or reverse cowgirl position on top of them.

  7. Chair bondage consists of tying a submissive's body parts to a high-back chair. Their legs are shackled to the chair legs, while their arms are typically fastened behind the chair's back. This permits the dominant to ride them or engage in oral sex.

  8. Standing bondage: The submissive partner's wrists are bound behind their upper body, frequently fastened to a wall or a ceiling, and their legs are spread using a spreader bar that connects their ankles to shackles. This position allows the dominant to approach them from behind and penetrate with a penis or dildo.

  9. Rear-entry bondage: A simpler version of standing bondage, this position has one person bent over with their wrists connected to their ankles. If desired, they can spread their legs with a spreader bar. This position enables the dominant partner to spank, enter, or conduct oral sex on the submissive partner from behind.

  10. Shibari, which translates to "decorative tying," is a type of rope bondage that originated in Japan during the seventeenth-century Edo period. Shibari, which uses rope made of jute or hemp, is regarded an aesthetically beautiful form of BDSM.


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